Amy Galea, Words and Literature
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The Perks of Declaring Wallflower Status

The same seamstress of words who wrote Sally Albright’s iconic scene in Kate’s Delicatessen and instigated a two decade discussion about whether or not men and women can ever be friends, wrote these words about her time as a freelance journalist:

“Working as a journalist is exactly like being the wallflower at the orgy….People who are drawn to journalism are usually people who, because of their cynicism or emotional detachment or reserve or whatever, are incapable of being anything but witnesses to events. Something prevents them from becoming involved, committed, and allows them to remain separate.

What separates me from what I write about is, I suspect, a sense of the absurd that makes it difficult for me to take many things terribly seriously. I’m not talking about objectivity here (I don’t believe in it), nor am I saying that this separateness makes it impossible to write personal journalism. I always have an opinion about the orgy; I’m just not down on the floor with the rest of the bodies.”

Nora Ephron wrote this in the introduction to the collection of her essays, Wallflower at the Orgy. The collection is made up of a number of pieces published in the late 60’s, after she left her job at the New York Post. It was at this time that Nora says she found her voice, the voice we know and love.


Nora submits that as writers we sit on the sidelines, gathering up the finer details and that even when we do participate we remain in many ways detached from the moment, seeing it in past tense or within a broader context (or just completely absurd).

That is what we’re doing here at Wallflower at the Disco, however instead of mourning over the fact that as writers, artists and reflectors we sometimes do the culturally blasphemous act of neglecting to ‘live in the moment’, we will relish in the positive and unique attributes it provides us with.

We might be more reflective because of it, more sentimental (or less sentimental and more realistic). Perhaps it will shine through in the way we understand the grey areas, those parts of life that are not so easy to define. So much of the world we are living in is about keeping up with the present, and looking beyond the present to the future. But in our teeny corner of the internet we are putting that on pause to take note of our observations.

We want to hear people’s stories, to acknowledge beautiful aspects of the different worlds we are a part of, to go back to things we might have missed and to sometimes just relish in change. What we’re doing here is personal; we always have an opinion on what’s going on, we just might not necessarily be committing the crime or creating the beauty.

This project is to be a continual collaboration between writers, artists, graphic designers, photographers and all other artisans related to the wonderful world of blogging. Send us your ideas, contributions and feedback, let’s have a chat.

Join with us to make this a lively space.

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First image via rantlifestyle, second image by Ciao Domenica.

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Amy worked in copywriting and company branding until she saw the light and began teaching high school students the joys of grammar and essay writing.  She currently resides on the South Coast of NSW and enjoys running away from home on a semi regular basis. She believes story telling and caramel popcorn continually make the world a grander place. In days gone by she blogged for literatico and she loves all the pretty things on Instagram.

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